To choose not to have with you someone who's passion in life is to see you successfully through your labor and birth.
To prefer not to have a person who has established a personal relationship with you and yours and it dedicated to meeting your needs and those of your birth partner.
To not see the benefit of having someone help you with exploring your options so that you have the knowledge to make informed choices regarding your care.
Do people not realize just how little time and attention they are going to get from the staff at the hospital?
Do they not realize that the nurses are often attending to multiple mothers and that they usually don't spend that much time with you until the actual time of delivery?
Do you really think that your husband or partner won't forget most of what they learned when you are screaming at them to get the h.. away?
Do you not see the emotional and physical strain it puts on your partner to be your sole support in a situation they inadequately trained and prepared for?
Do you really not understand that your doula will not leave you unless asked to for the entire length of the experience?
That your birth can be eventful without being stressful?
Please, somebody, explain to me why a person would choose not to have a Doula at their birth. I just don't understand.